Score 1 point for True and 0 points
for false.
If you scored between 9 and 12 - You're a
Foreplay Phenom
The simple fact that you take your time and are willing to engage
in some mutual experimentation means that you're both foreplay fanatics
— in a good way. Congratulations! Of course, you can always add another
sexual trick to the mix, so never stop exploring, teasing or pleasuring
each other.
If you
scored between 5 and 8 - You're Coming Along
All of us are capable of wild
passion, but even the most passionate lovers require a bit of seduction
and stimulation before intercourse can reach hollering heights. Besides,
if you're not smooching, touching or fantasizing together on a fairly
regular basis, your love life (not to mention emotional intimacy) is
probably not all that it could be. Another thing to consider: If there's
next to no foreplay in your relationship, it's a good bet that the male
is more satisfied than the female. And what's that all about?
If you scored
between 0 and 4 - You're in a Foreplay Funk
All of us are capable of wild passion, but even the most
passionate lovers require a bit of seduction and stimulation before
intercourse can reach hollering heights. Besides, if you're not
smooching, touching or fantasizing together on a fairly regular basis,
your love life (not to mention emotional intimacy) is probably not all
that it could be. Another thing to consider: If there's next to no
foreplay in your relationship, it's a good bet that the male is more
satisfied than the female. And what's that all about?
1. Engage in lots of passionate, unhurried kissing before getting down
to business.
There's Nothing As Seductive As a Good Smooch. Kissing, all by
itself, is a fine art and an act of love that stirs the soul as well as
the body. The lips are almost as good as the eyes at melding two
partners. The bottom line: Limiting your lip-locking is a foreplay
no-no.
2. Nuzzle your partner's neck, shoulders and other above-the-belt zones
for more than a few minutes before you slide into home.
Let Your Lips Wander. Oft-neglected areas such as the back of the
neck or the shoulder blades can be surprisingly sensitive when
reacquainted with a lover's mouth. Deny your partner this kind of
allover pleasure and you deny him some of sex's sweetest delights.
3. Almost never have sex without at least 10 (but preferably 20) minutes
of pre-sex passion.
Do Double Time. Would you run your car for only a minute on a subzero
day and then decide that it was revved and ready to take on the highway?
Of course not. And humans are no different — we need plenty of juice to
keep humming along smoothly. Sex without foreplay presumes instant
desire and arousal (which is definitely not possible for most women).
Great lovers wait — and drive each other over the edge with their
mouths, hands and bodies to make the experience even more passionate,
intimate and meaningful.
4. Touch your partner's genitals in an arousing way for at least five
(but ideally 10) minutes before having intercourse.
Give — and You Shall Receive. You need to touch each other below the
belt to make sure that you're both totally ready for intercourse.
Reciprocity isn't just fair, it's sexy, and it will bring you closer
together. Plus, if this kind of petting tends to be a one-way street
(one of you gives but never gets), resentment — and less satisfying sex
— is sure to follow.
5. Enjoy having your own genitals stroked seductively for at least five
to 10 minutes before having sex.
Give — and You Shall Receive. You need to touch each other below the
belt to make sure that you're both totally ready for intercourse.
Reciprocity isn't just fair, it's sexy, and it will bring you closer
together. Plus, if this kind of petting tends to be a one-way street
(one of you gives but never gets), resentment — and less satisfying sex
— is sure to follow.
6. Receive oral sex during approximately 75% of your lovemaking trysts.
Overcome Your Qualms About Oral Sex. Many men and women feel that
oral sex is somehow disrespectful or dirty. Others feel guilty for
receiving pleasure while their partner is not. Though these fears are
understandable, keep in mind that in its own way, giving great oral sex
can be as pleasurable as receiving it. After all, getting your partner
all hot and bothered is a powerful feeling. So reassure your mate that
you love to make him feel good (and that he makes you feel good too).
Then reinforce your words by doing some initiating on a regular basis.
7. Initiate oral sex during at least 75% of your between-the-sheets
encounters.
Overcome Your Qualms About Oral Sex. Many men and women feel that
oral sex is somehow disrespectful or dirty. Others feel guilty for
receiving pleasure while their partner is not. Though these fears are
understandable, keep in mind that in its own way, giving great oral sex
can be as pleasurable as receiving it. After all, getting your partner
all hot and bothered is a powerful feeling. So reassure your mate that
you love to make him feel good (and that he makes you feel good too).
Then reinforce your words by doing some initiating on a regular basis.
8. Occasionally use a vibrator (or other sex toy) to spice up foreplay.
The Truth About Sex Toys. Gadgets, vibrators and other sexual aids
aren't substitutes for a partner, but they can enhance pleasure. For
instance, vibrators can get hard-to-reach spots (such as the G spot) and
can produce incredibly intense sensations (and orgasms!). A great lover
isn't threatened by these accessories. After all, mutual pleasure and
comfort is the ultimate goal, no?
9. Occasionally share a fantasy or read erotic passages to each other
before having intercourse.
Take a Foray Into Fantasy. The brain is the ultimate sex organ. In
other words, you can tease each other with your minds by reading erotic
stories, swapping steamy dreams, doing some creative role playing, even
dressing up. If you can act like a sultan, a sex slave or a stowaway on
a pirate ship without cracking up or feeling too silly to enjoy it,
you'll get a chance to explore new erotic territory, see your partner in
a different light and add some spice to your love life.
10. Occasionally watch an erotic movie together before hitting the sack.
Have a Video Adventure. Sure, most erotic videos aren't targeted
toward women, and the whopping majority don't bother with plot, but
chances are you won't be watching after the first five or 10 minutes
anyway. So pop in a cassette, make fun of the silly dialogue, and get in
touch with your inner drama queen.
11. Seductively undress each other or wear erotic lingerie or clothes
for each other.
Undress Successfully. Undressing your partner (or undressing for your
partner) can be an integral part of the anticipation and excitement of
sex. But after the first few months, too many couples get so efficient
in performing the act that they dispense with sensuous disrobing and
just get naked. Don't. Unbutton each other's shirts slowly, or slip off
lingerie seductively. Make the experience last — and the pleasure will
last too.
12. Regularly light candles, share a bubble bath, break out the massage
oil or set a sexy scene before getting down to business.
Make a Sense-ation. Foreplay isn't just about touch. Ideally, it
helps all of the senses work together to make lovemaking a more exciting
experience. So try drawing an aromatic bath for your sweetie, light your
favorite scented candle or slather on massage oil. Taste, inhale, smell
and touch, and pleasure will follow.
