Giving Him Oral Pleasure:
How to Do and Enjoy It
Fellatio, giving head, and
going down on a guy all mean the same thing. Learning
how to be an oral sex expert takes time and practice,
as you'll need to find your personal comfort zone.
First, decide that you are willing
to become an able participant. Liking this act is
critical to performing your tasks with pizzazz. Even
the slightest revulsion will be transmitted directly
to his waiting member, and can kill the loveliness of
the event.
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Next, make sure that your man is
fresh, clean and appealing before you get down to
business. Varying your tongue and mouth positions,
styles and techniques will help you find the perfect
touch for his, and hopefully your, enjoyment. Oral sex
is a skilled activity and an art form. The key is to
like what you are doing, feel comfortable and
confident, and make this a journey of pleasure for
both of you. Using flavored lubricants such as
cinnamon "Hot Stuff," whipped cream or chocolate syrup
can add fun and zest to your experience. Licking the
shaft as well as the head (corona) of the penis, along
with using your hands on the (lubricated) skin around
his manhood, will enhance the experience as well.
Great that you are willing to jump out of the old mold and
join the ranks of the sexually courageous. Yes, it does take
courage and some sound ideas for breaking your own patterns to
become skilled at something you have never done before. But
with some new input and a little guidance from your lover, you
will reach your new sexual goal easily.
There are two tricks about giving oral pleasure to a man:
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You have to feel confident
and skilled at what you do, and
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You will find it most successful when you, the giver,
find pleasure in your actions.
Pleasure for Him Gift Basket For some women the concept of actually enjoying giving oral
sex to a man is strange, but once you allow your mind to
eroticize giving pleasure as a way to sexually stimulate
yourself, you will never want to stop. Okay, maybe it is a bit
too enthusiastic, but it's true that most women who do not
enjoy fellatio (oral sex on a man) have not tuned in to their
own pleasure receptors and, therefore, miss the feelings of
arousal that so often emerge during this sexual connection.
Before you start with your lover, you can also practice.
Using a penis-shaped sex toy (yes, a banana will work too),
you can gain self-confidence and test some tricks and
strategies using a variety of strokes and pressures.
After a few secret sessions alone, you will feel more at
ease doing it for real on your husband.
Lastly, be sure to ask the expert who goes to sleep right
next to you at night (your husband, of course) to find out
what exactly he likes so that you can truly enjoy turning him
- and you - on.
Foreplay for Men
Often a man is stimulated sexually by what he sees --
men tend to respond to visuals, while women tend to
respond more to what they hear and feel. That said,
some men do need to be touched or cajoled into action
more directly. The first and basic rule is to ask. Ask
him what he likes, needs and wants as a turn-on. Try
doing this at a quiet, intimate time (but not
necessarily in the bedroom). For example, you might
initiate a discussion over coffee about what each of
you finds to be a turn-on. If your man needs to be
touched, then any form of gentle, careful and caring
caressing of his genitals, and even his nipples,
should do the trick. You can do this with your hands,
of course, but you can also use your mouth or even
your breasts. Believe me, it will work.
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