
Stretch Your Sexual Boundaries
Lusty ladies of the world know a thing or two about getting it
good. And the one mattress maxim they all swear by: Be open to
trying surprising, even offbeat ideas. If you're willing to
experiment regularly with new love moves and erotic attitudes,
it'll pay off in spades of satisfaction. "When you broaden your
definition of sexy and dare to try something outside of your usual
arsenal of tricks, you not only get the benefit of phenomenal new
sensations, you also gain confidence, which makes you more
assertive and adventurous in bed," says Barbara Keesling, author
of Getting Close (Harper Collins, 1999). To help push your
libidinous limits, first carve that priceless maxim into your
headboard. Then try our highly provocative tips and tricks that
are guaranteed to result in a riskier, friskier, very gratified
you.
Tip #1: Get Sassy With Your String of Pearls
Your guy would never associate these ladylike gems with the kind
of sex that makes the neighbors complain. That's precisely why
surprising him with a not-exactly-chaste way to pearl-play will
send him (and you) to the erotic outer limits. "Doing something
totally unexpected is one of the biggest turn-ons there is,"
confirms Lou Paget, author of How to Be a Great Lover
(Broadway Books, 1999). Before a date with your beau, slip on a
string of pearls. As things heat up at your place later, let him
take everything off you except the necklace. Then unclasp the
baubles and use them to tease and please your lucky lad. Run the
smooth jewels across his chest, down his stomach, and along his
inner thighs. Then roll them into a ball and knead his body into a
state of bliss.
Tip #2: Hip-notize Yourself
When you ponder the Grand Central Station of sexual pleasure, you
probably think genitals. But there's another little-known path to
amazing climaxes -- your pelvic muscles. "Working them increases
blood circulation, making that area supersensitive during sex,"
says Felice Dunas, Ph.D., author of Passion Play (Riverhead
Books, 1998). To buff your moan zone, stand with your feet flat on
the floor, legs slightly apart. Slowly gyrate your pelvis
clockwise in complete circles by rotating your hips (as if you
were using a hula hoop). Do 10 times in both directions, then rock
your pelvis front to back several times.
Tip #3: Dare to Bare It
Skip the usual trim and opt for a superskimpy wax job -- your trip
to the salon will have scintillating results. So says Janet, 27:
"At first, I felt a little overexposed, but my boyfriend was so
turned on that it made me feel sexier." Plus, having nothing to
cover you and buffer the sensation makes that area hypersensitive,
according to Keesling. Janet couldn't agree more. "He hardly
touched me and I orgasmed three times! I owe it all to the
Brazilians."
Tip #4: Be a Tongue Temptress
To give you instant sex-goddess status in his eyes and make you
feel doubly divine about your skills in the sack, try this totally
unique lick trick: Hold the shaft of his penis steady with one
hand, and stroke side to side on his frenulum (the raised line
running just under the head of his penis) with the hot, ridged
underside of your tongue. "Not only is the feeling amazing for
him, but any change of texture can be highly erotic because it is
unexpected," says Paget.
Tip #5: Have a Clothes Encounter
"I'm almost always the stripee," says Nancy, 28. "So one night, I
decided to disrobe my boyfriend before he had a chance to fiddle
with my buttons. I slowly undid his shirt, then gently slid it
off, kissing and licking his chest. Then I got down on my knees
and removed his shoes and socks. I fondled his penis through his
pants as I slipped them off. Taking advantage of my guy like that
was a huge spicer-upper."
Tip #6: Loosen Up
Heart-pounding, heavy-breathing, supersweaty sex puts your body
through a wild workout, says Dunas. "And like any exercise,
stretching before carnal cardio gives you increased flexibility
and stamina -- two big perks for trying out new positions and
lengthening your lovemaking sessions." Here's a pleasure-maxing
yoga move you can do with your man: Sit facing each other with
your legs spread in a V, feet touching. Reach out and grab your
honey's hand. Take turns pulling each other forward, and feel the
stretch running through your inner thigh area. We swear you'll be
thankful for your limber loins later that night.
Tip #7: Be Sly and Play Shy
Acting sexually coy can be as erotic as knowing every trick in the
book. Rachel, 27, can attest to the power of holding out. "One
night when my boyfriend and I were fooling around, I decided to
play hard to get and refused to let him take off my nightgown. He
had to kiss and lick me through the fabric," she says. "He even
gave me oral sex that way. It turned out to be one of the most
ecstatic experiences I've had!"
Tip #8: Get Your Mind Racy
Try daydreaming about doing the delicious deed with a total
stranger. When you imagine having sex with your own sweetie, you
tend to visualize the same moves you usually use, just in a more
romantic or risque setting, points out Olivia St. Claire, author
of 256 More Ways to Drive a Man Wild in Bed (Harmony Books,
2001). "But picture getting passionate with someone totally new,
and suddenly you're compelled to imagine how he might kiss your
neck, tease the back of your thighs, and move his body in bed.
Next thing you know, you have a slew of novel ideas to take to the
mattress with you -- and your boyfriend."
Tip #9: Act Out
Lisa, 27, is a T-shirt-and-jeans kind of gal. "I rarely wear
anything skintight and slinky," she admits. That's why, when she's
feeling frisky, she pulls out her so-not-in-character sexpot
getup. "I have a supersheer tank that I wear braless," she says.
"Every time I put it on, my boyfriend starts panting." By becoming
a tarty tease, Lisa's not just giving her guy a piece of eye
candy, she's showing herself in a new, erotic light. "As the vamp,
I feel less inhibited to try new tricks -- they just go with the
outfit."
Tip #10: Work That Flirt
Forget waiting until you hit the bedroom to start foreplay. To get
your hormones running on high octane, playfully tease each other
in public. Massage his neck while you're talking to a third person
at a party, or be sexily suggestive and let your tongue come out
of your mouth just a bit to cushion the edge of a wine glass when
you drink. These flirty moves let you be coquettish and bold at
once -- hinting at what's to come.
Tip #11: Play No-Hands Nooky
The rules: You can explore each other's bodies with your lips,
tongues, breath, hair, knees. "Restricting the use of your hands
requires you to get creative," says St. Claire. "You'll be amazed
by what you can come up with."
Tip #12: Get Some Exposure
"One evening at my place, my boyfriend and I got so frisky that we
ended up getting hot and heavy right in front of the window,"
remembers Diane, 25. "Wondering if anyone was watching -- and even
getting turned on by the free show -- was pretty thrilling." No
one's suggesting that you put yourself in a precarious position
and risk being arrested. But adding a dose of peep-show drama to
your make-out sessions can lead to powerful fireworks.
Tip #13: Put Rhythm in Your Romp
"Playing something that approximates a heartbeat, like a drum
solo, will set a pace to your movements," says Keesling. With
pulse-pounding sounds in the background, your inner Tarzan and
Jane will have a supersynchronized, deliciously primitive passion
session.
Tip #14: Tie the Knot
Even a plain scarf can make him see stars if you use the right
technique. Take a long silk wrap, place it around his main man and
the boys, and tie in a large square knot, leaving about a foot of
fabric on either end to hold on to. As you're riding him, pull on
the free ends so that the knot rubs against your clitoris.
"Constricting his penis and scrotum may lead to a harder
erection," says Jay Wiseman, author of Supermarket Tricks: More
Than 125 Ways to Improvise Good Sex (Greenery Press, 1998),
which is good news for both of you.
Tip #15: Challenge Him to Carnal Cards
Take a normal deck, assign a sexual act to each suit (diamonds
equal kisses, hearts equal body rubs, etc.), and make each number
represent the heat level of that act. Then take turns picking. For
example, if you draw a five of diamonds, give him a smoldering
smooch on his neck. Draw a 10 of diamonds and lay a red-hot french
kiss on his longing lips. One rule: You can't give the same kind
of kiss or touch twice. This game is so sexually turbocharged
because neither of you has any idea what might be coming next.
"And building sexual tension by the stop-and-start method
increases your arousal," explains St. Claire, "making you more
erotically receptive."